Operation: Orgasm

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Effing Dykes Presents: What Lies Beneath (Her Fingernails)

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Hiya lezzers!

I’ve got marshmallows and gluten-free graham crackers, so…

WHO WANTS TO HEAR A SCARY STORY??

MWAHHA HAHAHAHA!

Get your buddy. Everybody got your buddy? Good. Hold on tight to your buddy’s hand.

‘Cause this is a true story.

Ahem.

Once upon a time, when I was so newly gay I didn’t even know I was newly gay…

An older lesbian at the now-defunct queer bar called Za’s in Green Bay, Wisconsin (I was totally just there to dance) gave me some advice:

1) Never open a joint checking account with your lover

2) Don’t fake orgasms

3) Make sure a woman’s fingernails are clean.

This actually was terrifying, but important information for those with vaginas

"Hey, I'm an anorgasmic girl too, and have never had an orgasm. Annoyingly, I keep getting headaches when I masturbate recently, and it's put me off. Have you ever had this? Anything you'd suggest? Not that I ever orgasm anyway, just takes away any enjoyment from it."

That’s never happened to me before, but I searched on Google, and that seems fairly common, though more often in males. Apparently for other people, the position they’re in (laying down vs sitting vs standing) makes this better or worse, and a few have said that heat makes this worse. Most of them say it hurts in the back of their head. For most, it seems to have lasted only a few days and it might be associated with high or low blood pressure. It seems to affect mostly young people.

It may be Coital cephalalgia. Treatment for that may include taking a break from sexual activity, exercising more, or taking medication. I would definitely talk to your doctor about this.

"Sorry to ask you birth control questions, but I need a little advice. I had sex yesterday - the day after my period ended - completely unprotected. (Stupid, I know.) I put in a new nuvaring today, and I'm just letting it work it's magic. Should I take plan b? Or is the whole period thing combined with the nuvaring thing enough to keep babies at bay?"

Well, there’s no such thing as safe sex, only safer sex. There’s no way to 100% keep babies at bay. Having sex closer to your period is safer than having sex between periods. Putting in a NuvaRing, in addition, is safer than not. Have you been using NuvaRing consistently, or did you just start? If you were just on your off-week, and you used it exactly as instructed, then its effectiveness is just as high during this time, and “pregnancy protection lasts a full month.” Taking Plan B in addition to the above is also safer than not, especially if the NuvaRing was or could have been used incorrectly. If a pregnancy is something you really, really want to avoid, your safest option would be to take Plan B. You just have to decide if it’s worth it (as far as price, side-effects, etc.)

You can find more detailed NuvaRing info herehere, and here

"I've been taking birth control for a year until I recently stopped about a couple of weeks ago. I didn't finish the last pack I was taking and I wasn't sexually active when I wasn't taking the pills. this month I felt all these periody symptoms like bloating and stuff before i was expected to have my period but when i got it it was all light bleeding for two days. so my questions are...was that my period and is this normal after stopping bc?"

I found this article that says:

After you stop taking birth control pills, the exogenous hormones will leave your body within a few days, regardless of how long you were taking the pill. However, that does not mean you’ll see your period by the next cycle. Some women may not get their period for several months; this condition is known as post-pill amenorrhea (absence of period). Since the pill has been preventing your body from making ovulation and menstruation hormones, it can alter the normal production, and your body can take longer to resume production.

When your period does resume after stopping birth control pills, things may be the same as they were before you started; that is, women who had irregular periods before they started the pill may still have irregular periods after stopping, and women with normal periods before the pill may go back to a normal cycle. However, that’s not always the case. Periods may be shorter or longer than before, or they may be heavier or lighter.

I did a little fact-checking and the Mayo Clinic backs up that information here. They also said:

When you finally do stop the pill, you can expect some bleeding, which may change the rhythm of your menstrual cycle.

So, it looks like it’s totally normal!

I don’t know how to tell if that’s your period for sure, but I guess that’s not something you have to worry about. 

Lady Unicorn: DON'T BUY DUREX HER SENSATION

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heraldinthedark:

fuckyeahsexeducation:

mykailamess:

operation-orgasm:

So I found out that this was the last condom I used before I got a yeast infection. From a Google search, Durex proudly declares that “has NO awful latex smell” and has “Sensual Berry Scent and Taste.

You CANNOT useflavored condoms for intercourse. They do NOT go in vaginas. Many aren’t tested to the same level of quality, because they aren’t marketed for intercourse - only for oral sex. I’m extremely disappointed that Durex did market a flavored condom for intercourse. Flavors and fragrances do NOT go in vaginas. They cause yeast infections. I’m just so fucking angry right now. I loved Durex, but not now. Their fucking irresponsibility just tore up my vagina.

The FDA needs to require warning labels for all condoms with flavors or spermicide. Can I start a petition for this? Like, as big and clear and obnoxious as the ones on cigarette packs. And not just on the box, on the individual condoms because, if you’re like me, you take condom hand-outs from clinics, college, etc. WARNING: CONDOMS USING FRAGRANCE, FLAVORS, AND/OR SPERMICIDE CAUSE YEAST INFECTIONS. It may smell nice, but your pussy will BURN.

Sorry, I’m just so fucking angry right now.

I’m with you on the fragrance and flavors…but spermicides are typically formulated to be completely safe. They’re meant to kill the sperm in case the condom rips or something similar happens. It’d be pretty pointless to have something like that that would cause a yeast infection.

Many spermicides are, in fact, injected in a liquid form vaginally before sex.

Why on earth are you talking about spermicides? 

Many condoms (spermicidal condoms) have lubrication containing nonoxynol-9 which has been linked to irritation, burning, and itching in the genitals and UTIs, yeast infections, and bacterial vaginosis in vaginas, specifically. They don’t increase the effectiveness of condoms enough to make the risk worth it. They also have a shorter shelf-life. “The World Health Organization says that spermicidally lubricated condoms should no longer be promoted. However, they recommend using a nonoxynol-9 lubricated condom over no condom at all” (most of this info is on Wikipedia and more great info here). Spermicide may be used safely, or without side effects, but it does pose a risk that people should be aware of. You never know if it’ll cause trouble for you until it happens.

You’re right. It is pointless to have spermicidal condoms when they can cause yeast infections. Just as pointless as flavored condoms, scented condoms, scented tampons, vaginal deodorants, vaginal soaps, douches, etc. Unfortunately, companies choose not to tell their customers that their products carry a risk, and, as in the case of Durex Her Sensation, don’t advertise the fact that they contain fragrances/flavors/spermicide/other bad chemicals unless you decide to research them, so that, even if you know that these things are bad for you (as I did), you still wouldn’t know that they’re entering your body.

Also, unfortunately, the FDA has not regulated these products. These products should be either illegal to market for vaginal insertion, or come with LARGE, OBNOXIOUS warning labels, so they can stop taking advantage of their customers by trying to shroud them in ignorance.

Would it be worth it to start a petition?

Reblogged 2 years ago from itsgottabeenough

DON’T BUY DUREX HER SENSATION

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So I found out that this was the last condom I used before I got a yeast infection. From a Google search, Durex proudly declares that “has NO awful latex smell" and has "Sensual Berry Scent and Taste.

You CANNOT use flavored condoms for intercourse. They do NOT go in vaginas. Many aren’t tested to the same level of quality, because they aren’t marketed for intercourse - only for oral sex. I’m extremely disappointed that Durex did market a flavored condom for intercourse. Flavors and fragrances do NOT go in vaginas. They cause yeast infections. I’m just so fucking angry right now. I loved Durex, but not now. Their fucking irresponsibility just tore up my vagina.

The FDA needs to require warning labels for all condoms with flavors or spermicide. Can I start a petition for this? Like, as big and clear and obnoxious as the ones on cigarette packs. And not just on the box, on the individual condoms because, if you’re like me, you take condom hand-outs from clinics, college, etc. WARNING: CONDOMS USING FRAGRANCE, FLAVORS, AND/OR SPERMICIDE CAUSE YEAST INFECTIONS. It may smell nice, but your pussy will BURN.

Sorry, I’m just so fucking angry right now.

How does the period week work for birth control?

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So, last week was my period/placebo week on my birth control pill (It’s a 28 day pack - 21 days with hormones and 7 days of placebo). On Sunday, I forgot to take my pill until 11:30pm, because I forgot that my weeks start on Sunday instead of Monday until late that night. I normally take my pill at around 7pm.

I had sex on Sunday night (around 11pm). It was protected, but when he took the condom off, I think he got a little on his fingers, and he fingered me pretty soon after that. I didn’t say anything at the time, because I figured I was protected by the pill, until I got home and suddenly remembered.

Also, when I looked at my pill packs, I noticed that I missed the very last (Saturday) hormone pill. Does that make me even more susceptible?

On top of that, I managed to forget my pill last night (actually, I slept through the usual time, because I was sick). I’m gonna take two pills tonight at the previous usual time (7pm).

What are the chances of fertilization? Are the pills before or after exposure what counts?

How does the off-week even work? What makes it work?

And how does timing affect effectiveness? Before, I only knew that taking it at the wrong time causes spotting.

I never really thought about all this before, because I’ve never had an incidents with condoms. Also, I normally spot as soon as there’s any disruption with the pill, which eliminates sexual activity for me. I normally never do anything sexual during my period week, but this cycle, my period was especially short.

I’m so confused right now. I don’t think I need to take the morning after pill. I really hope not. In my current situation, I could technically afford it, but it would be a serious strain.

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"Studies have not established that emergency contraceptive pills prevent fertilized eggs from implanting in the womb, leading scientists say. Rather, the pills delay ovulation, the release of eggs from ovaries that occurs before eggs are fertilized, and some pills also thicken cervical mucus so sperm have trouble swimming."

The New York Times.

Basically, the morning after pill does its work before an egg is fertilized. Wonder what anti-choicers will say now…

(via jessicavalenti)

Also, half of all zygotes don’t implant anyway, so each one isn’t a huge loss…

(Source: jessicavalenti)

Reblogged 2 years ago from fuckyeahsexeducation

TMI Tuesday: I get horny when I have to pee

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Not the pee itself, nor the act of peeing, but the sensation right before.

I’ve heard one other girl say the same thing.

I have a 3-part theory about it.

1. The bladder is in close proximity to the internal clitoris, so I wonder if a full bladder puts pressure on the internal clitoris, causing arousal.

2. Having to pee badly causes you to clench your PC muscles, which tends to increase sexual pleasure or be pleasureful in itself.

3. The process of peeing involves tension and release, which is also the case with orgasms. Maybe since I don’t have orgasms, this is my body’s next-best-thing. Though, this doesn’t explain why the actual act of peeing isn’t a source of pleasure for me.

Anyway, this can cause a problem because I like the sensation and want to prolong it and end up holding my pee until I have to literally run to the bathroom.

For the past month or so, I’ve been having this random thing where I have a pain when I walk

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It’s mostly right after I’ve been sitting a long time, so I assumed it was something to do with a muscle, but I just realized, the pain is right where my ovary is.

I’m paranoid.

Has anyone heard of/experienced something like that?

"Ok, so I never really cared about the whole circumcision debate, but I feel like I should try and learn about it. So I was wondering if you did a post, or could do a post, that talked about all the risks and benefits (if there are any) of infant circumcision. I don't really worry about adult circumcision cause it's your own body, so your own choice you know? I want to have my own opinion on this, but I want to be fully informed first. Thanks!"

I’m glad you asked!

against circumcision:

  • The foreskin serves a purpose. It is not like an appendix, which can be removed without consequence. Though, even appendices are left alone until the cause complications, because surgery is a greater risk than the possible complications. Unlike an appendix, they are not an evolutionary biproduct. They’re relatively new, evolutionarily. It’s believed that when the penis evolved and moved outside of the body (as many animals penises remain inside of the body until aroused), it need a form of protection from harm and desensitation. It’s believed that the foreskin helps make sex happen faster, since it allows for increased stimulation when retracted during arousal, making for easier erections. Also, the fact that foreskins don’t retract until puberty is hypothesized to prevent young fatherhood and create better parents (source). Foreskins are what is natural.
  • Circumcision reduces pleasure. The difference in nerves between the foreskin and remaining penis skin post-circumcision is the difference between the front of your hand and the back of your hand (source). In addition, leaving the glans (the most sensitive part, behind the foreskin) constantly exposed causes it to callus and desensitize, blocking access to more nerve endings. There was a great video that showed (through a 3D model) what is removed and how the callusing happens, but I can’t find it. In addition, the foreskin moves and glides reducing friction. The purpose of precum is to lubricate the foreskin and add comfort, even for the partner during sex. Countries that don’t practice circumcision as commonly have no market for lube, because bodies are naturally designed to make sex comfortable. Here, uncutting goes more in-depth.
  • It’s risky. Circumcision causes about 117 neonatal deaths per year. That’s 1 out of every 77 neonatal deaths over a cosmetic surgery (Here is a source, though this statistic is in tons of articles).
  • In addition to death, there are risks of sever scarring and botched circumcisions that severely mutilate the penis, such as in the case of David Reimer, where a botched circumcision basically ruined his life from the beginning. There are some example images of botched circumcisions hereherehere, and here, though I’ve seen more severe images. Hereare images of relatively common types of undesirable scarring. Hereis another story of a complication that arose for one man later in life due to the friction caused by a lack of foreskin.
  • While there is some evidence that circumcision helps prevent UTIs, and STI’s such as HIV, there is evidence that the foreskin helps prevent these things. If you look under “Immunology” here, it goes more in-depth on the protection that foreskins provide.
  • Small fact I learned while researching just now, infant circumcision exposes the meatus to urine in the diaper, causing it to narrow, constricting urine flow, as you can see at the bottom of the page here.  This can cause urination problems that may need to be surgically corrected (source).
  • It’s a permanent, irreversible change. Though there are some foreskin restoration methods, it will not be the same skin that was lost. It will not have the same type of nerve endings and it will not fit as snugly and protect the penis as efficiently.
  • It’s not your penis. I think it is best to leave the decision whether or not to circumcise up to the owner of the penis. If the penis-owner wants to get circumcised later, that should be their decision. Also, if one is circumcised later in life, one can use anesthesia. Babies rarely receive effectiveanesthetics because it’s too risky on such a small body. Here is an informative video on anesthesia and circumcision.
  • If it’s that advantageous, why hasn’t the non-US world caught on? Only 10-15% of men around the world are circumcised (source).
  • I feel like I will come back and add to this list…

Arguments for circumcision: (with my rebuttals in parenthesis)

According to a HealthyChildren.org article:

  • Medical benefits, including
    • A slightly lower risk of urinary tract infections (UTIs). A circumcised infant boy has about a 1 in 1,000 chance of developing a UTI in the first year of life; an uncircumcised infant boy has about a 1 in 100 chance of developing a UTI in the first year of life.
    • A lower risk of getting cancer of the penis. However, this type of cancer is very rare in all males. (A common rebuttal is that you may as well remove breasts in female infants to prevent breast cancer, which is much more common)
    • A slightly lower risk of getting sexually transmitted infections (STIs), includingHIV, the virus that causes AIDS.
    • Prevention of foreskin infections. (May as well remove any part of the body to prevent infections there)
    • Prevention of phimosis, a condition in uncircumcised males that makes foreskin retraction impossible. (There are many misconceptions about when and how the foreskin should retract. Many “cases” of phimosis are just when the foreskin hasn’t naturally retracted yet, and shouldn’t be forced to retract. Really, most foreskin complications can be treated with a cream (source))
    • Easier genital hygiene. (A fold may make it harder to clean. Though, the vagina has many more folds and arguably a greater risk for smegma buildup, yet women are expected to keep themselves clean without surgery or amputating and body parts.)
  • Social reasons. Many parents choose to have it done because “all the other men in the family” had it done or because they do not want their sons to feel “different.” (However, if trends continue as they have been, intact will be the norm, and circumcised penises are more likely to be made fun of in the locker room, a common concern among men for their sons. This source says that circumcision is down to 33%, though this source says that it’s around 50%. Either way, it’s on the decline)
  • Religious or cultural reasons. Some groups such as followers of the Jewish and Islamic faiths practice circumcision for religious and cultural reasons. (Actually, Judaism is the only religion that explicitly requires circumcision. Islam and Christian are somewhat tied to circumcision, but it’s more cultural and regional than religious. My Muslim friend is the only person I know that is as anti-circumcision as I am.)
Another article says:

For the majority of those of the Jewish faith, circumcision is a religious ritual that must be performed eight days after the birth according to their doctrine.

Some parents believe that the foreskin serves no purpose and just gets in the way of hygiene as it’s hard to clean under the skin and could be a breeding ground for bacteria. They figure just get rid of the skin and solve that problem altogether.

Hygiene was the reason that Andrea, a 32 year old Accounting Assistant from Irving, Texas had her son circumcised. “When he gets older he doesn’t have to clean his private area with extra care. His grandfather isn’t circumcised and he wished his parents did give him the surgery.”

In agreement is Lorah, a 19 year old student/stay at home mom from Mobile, Alabama. “It was just easier. When they get older it makes it easier to keep clean. Boys tend to hit that age where they don’t want to shower and this eliminates the risk of infection under the foreskin.”

Both she and Andrea say that they will circumcise any future boys they have.

There’s also another reason most parents opt for circumcision. Appearance. The general portrayal of a penis in the media is with the foreskin removed. To see an uncircumcised penis is still considered a novelty these days. This is more of a western culture belief though because for the most part, European men are not circumcised, though with the growing Western media influence there this is beginning to change.

The United States is the only country for the most part where the majority of circumcisions are performed for reasons other than religion.  

One of the medical reasons for circumcisions are if the foreskin is too tight on the penis and is difficult to pull back or if there’s a condition called Balanitis which is a recurring infection under the foreskin that sometimes develops in adult men. According to some studies, there is a possibility that glands under the foreskin may tear over time making it easier for infections such as HIV to enter the body.

There’s no doubting that circumcision is a painful surgery, but parents who are pro circumcision site that it’s better that the surgery is done when the male is an infant who will forget the pain than when he must undergo the surgery as an older child or adult for whatever reason and suffer the pain then. Healing usually takes roughly seven days. Occasionally there might be a risk of infection or scarring and parents need to be vigilant about making sure babies don’t further injure the area until the penis has a chance to completely heal.

Here is a semi-unbiased video, though it presents more reasons that people choose to circumcise.
Here is a video with the best information I’ve seen pro-circumcision in terms of health. I could make rebuttals for most of the things they say, but I think reading the comments section suffices. I’ll just say that many of the studies done in Africa were debated because they were based on regions where circumcision is more or less commonly practiced, and didn’t take into account other regional differences, such as prostitution numbers, which some believe may have caused the differences. Areas with increased rates of circumcision also had other HIV-prevention programs in place, including education and condom distribution. There are no studies done in developed nations that yield the same results. If we were to compare regions, though, the US has higher rates of STDs than many European countries and far, far higher rates of circumcision. If you want, looking into the individual scientific studies would probably be helpful, if you’re interested enough to put in that much time.
Overall, since I’m someone who cares about pleasure, the sexual side effects are enough to convince me that it is wrong. Health-wise, arguments seem to go both ways. Though, it seems to me that the health benefits are still a bit unknown, but the risks are proven and real. To me, in order to perform a non-consensual surgery, the benefits must, undeniably, heavily outweigh the risks, which doesn’t seem to be the case for circumcision. If I had to choose between a natural ailment and a man-made one, I’d go with what is natural. At least then, I’d know I didn’t cause it. If there is any doubt, don’t do it. If a complication arises or new studies actually prove that it is extremely beneficial, then circumcision can happen then. People advocate early circumcision so that the infant won’t remember, but the older and larger the patient, the better the anesthetic options. I believe it’s a surgery that can be put off, and should be put off until the penis-owner can consent. Circumcision is irreversible. Choosing not to circumcise is reversible. From a biological/evolutionary perspective, it evolved for a reason. From a spiritual perspective, I believe God makes no mistakes. I do not believe that half of the human population is born with a birth defect.
Anyone on either side, let me know if there’s anything I left out.

The Medical Need for Orgasms in Women

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By having a clitoral orgasm, a large amount of oxytocin is released. This hormone is not at all essential to conceive, but is needed to regulate hormone levels impaired by stress and/or the menstrual cycle. Oxytocin deficiency enhances stress, obesity and psychotic behavior, impairs cognitive functions and increases breast-cancer risk.

Clitoral orgasms do not serve conception, and are not obtained through sexual intercourse. Clitoral orgasms serve physical health, and pleasure, and are obtained through specific clitoric stimulus. Orgasms enhanced by intense sexual fantasies and a capable and compatible partner, increase oxytocin release the most…

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Yoga Orgasms. Real shit.

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stefanoblackest:

Also general sexual-health benefits of yoga.

Via BuzzFeed. Click through for article.

Also:

Curious why the Buddha is laughing all the time in some representations? It is because he’s been having an eternal orgasm ever since he became enlightened, which explains the permanent goofy grin on his face—at least according to one theory, says Morris.

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